Monday, July 21, 2014

Emotionally True Pancake

A   L   O   H   A !
"Sit down before fact
 as a little child, 
be prepared to 
give up every 
preconceived notion... 
or you shall learn
 nothing."
                       Thomas H. Huxley







"I have never 
been hurt 
by anything 
I didn't say."
                 Calvin Coolidge






 "There ain't no pancake 
so thin 
it ain't got two sides. ..."



"The first pancake 
is always lumpy." 
 Russian Proverb


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When I worked with teens
I was very invested in 
giving them my attention
and believing in them.


Sometimes they complained
about some person or situation:

The principal said-
Mom said-

Yes, Mom, 
or the Principal
can be rude,
or even wrong.

B U T

By going off half-cocked,
based on 1 person's version
I have learned to my
embarrassment
that there are 
ALWAYS
at LEAST two sides
to everything,
two versions of every story.


I have learned
to withhold judgement
instead of reacting
passionately.

(What was that Grandma
said about counting 
to ten?)

My version of events
is Emotionally True
to me.

Yours to You.

Yet, those truths
are but parts
of a bigger
T r  u  t  h.

I have learned
not to argue with 
Emotional Truths.
They are facts.

It is a rare person
who can see beyond
their own
Emotional Truths
to walk a mile
in the Other's shoes.

I work towards being that person.
Join us.

Together we can
change the
Way the World 
Works!

Who's with me?

                      Fondly, cloudia

Bonus Info:

No matter how flat you make a pancake, 
it still has two sides. 
Step into the other person's shoes 
and try to see their side of the story. 
Try to understand the other person 
and why they acted in a hurtful way. 
Try not to judge them. 
Conversely, examine your role in the feud. 
Did you do or saying something hurtful? 
Did you promise something 
and then back out of your agreement? 
Keep in mind 
the other person 
probably has some valid points that you need 
to weigh and consider. 
"Dr. Phil" McGraw.


23 comments:

EG CameraGirl said...

Great advice, Cloudia. I too try to see both sides of every story but it isn't always easy, I fear. Some people believe people who try to understand both sides are "fence sitters." But people like us don't create wars. :)

Dina said...

Hi Cloudia, I jumped over for some of your beauty, calm, and wisdom.
Thanks for everything. Shalom!

Rick Forrestal said...

Beautiful images.
Love the palm shadows.
Great quotes, too.

eViL pOp TaRt said...

Great advice, Cloudia. Especially the importance of considering someone else's emotional truth. Many conflicts could be lessened by taking that into account.

rupam sarma said...

So beautiful photos.
Nice post.

ANITA said...

Well said Cloudia!Big hugs!!In the hot weather:)

Adam said...

nice Coolidge quote

Intangible Hearts said...

Enjoying your posts, I'm a friend of William's from Speak of the Devil and I loved Hawaii so much, I had to write about it.

ifthethunderdontgetya™³²®© said...

Egrets, I've had a few
But then again, too few to mention...
~

Teresa said...

The first picture is stunning!! The advice in the post is so very, very helpful. Thanks for sharing your insights.

Cloudia said...

I love each of you. Thanks so much. Hang in there dear Dina. Shalom 💜

Myrna R. said...

I'm with you on what you say. Let's change the world, it so needs it now. Thanks Cloudia.

Charles Gramlich said...

I like the pancake comment. Tis true. Most people don't seem to realize this, or won't admit it.

Elephant's Child said...

At LEAST two sides - and often many more.
Thank you.

William Kendall said...

So I'm not the only one who got the count to ten notion told to?

magiceye said...

Am with you!!

Namaste /\ from Mumbai
Aloha!!

黄清华 Wong Ching Wah said...

I wish to be an empty glass !

foongpc said...

Great advice! Yes there are always two sides to a story. :)

Karen S. said...

I'm with you! I like the two sided pancake, especially when it has a crispy edge all the way around it! Oh yummy!

Anonymous said...

Beeuutiful bird of paradise bloom. Lotsa colors. I'd love to walk with lotsa folks as long as I can wear my flip flop slippas. DrumMajor

Couture Carrie said...

Love the Coolidge quote!

xoxox,
CC

Small Kucing said...

Lovely palm ....and good advice. I have to try and keep this in mind

Stefano Davanzo said...

just a week, little mire, and I'll be back in paradise :-)
See you
Ciao
Stefano