Manu O Ku
Honolulu's Official Bird
Wednesday, September 19, 2018
You Win, I Win, or WE Win
A L O H A !
"Those who think it is permissible to
tell white lies soon grow color-blind."
Austin O'Malley
Do you want to be "right"
or be effective?
You can be technically correct,
but the person you argue with
is telling you something valuable.
They are telling you what is
Emotionally True to them,
what matters most to them.
They are telling you exactly what
you need to understand, in order
to forge an agreement.
Can we even really hear each other anymore?
Yes, you may be "correct" on your facts,
but be dead wrong in your attitude,
behavior, results. This is a Democracy,
not a winner-takes-all demolition derby.
Or is it?
We do not need to agree on everything,
in order to live agreeably.
But we do need to understand
what really motivates people
who hold opinions that seem
incompatible with our own.
To do that, we need to regard them
once again as people.not as
stereotypes in a morality play.
We need, in a real sense,
to 'love' our neighbor as
we do ourselves; That is:
as basically good persons;
Persons who deserve
to be listened to.
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Thank YOU
Friend!
Fondly, cloudia
Link to a BBC Article on the topic of Paltering