Wednesday, September 19, 2018

Hawaii Photo of the Day

A  L  O  H  A !
Manu O Ku
Honolulu's Official Bird

You Win, I Win, or WE Win

A  L  O  H  A !

"Those who think it is permissible to 
tell white lies soon grow color-blind."
             Austin O'Malley


     Do you want to be "right" 
or be effective? 
 You can be technically correct, 
but the person you argue with 
is telling you something valuable.  
They are telling you what is 
Emotionally True to them, 
what matters most to them.  
They are telling you exactly what 
you need to understand, in order 
to forge an agreement.

     Can we even really hear each other anymore?

     Yes, you may be "correct" on your facts, 
but be dead wrong in your attitude, 
behavior, results.  This is a Democracy, 
not a winner-takes-all  demolition derby.  
Or is it?

     We do not need to agree on everything, 
in order to live agreeably.
     But we do need to understand 
what really motivates people 
who hold opinions that seem 
incompatible with our own.

     To do that, we need to regard them 
once again as people.not as 
stereotypes in a morality play.  
We need, in a real sense,
to 'love' our neighbor as 
we do ourselves; That is: 
as basically good persons;  
Persons who deserve 
to be listened to.

Linking to


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             Fondly, cloudia

Link to a BBC Article on the topic of Paltering