A L O H A From Honolulu!
I remind myself every morning:
Nothing I say this day
will teach me anything.
- So
if I'm going to learn,
I must do it by listening.
Larry King
Ears are made not for hearing
but for listening. Listening
is an active skill,
whereas hearing is passive.
Listening is something that we
have to work at - it's a relationship
with sound. And yet, it's a skill
that none of us are taught.
Julian Treasure
You have to develop relationships
with other people so
when the tough times come,
you can work together.
Colin Powell
If you think communication
is all talking, you
haven't been listening.
Ashleigh Brilliant
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How To Listen:
Do you have mental energy
Do you have mental energy
right now for this person?
If not, kindly take your leave.
If not, kindly take your leave.
If the answer is yes:
Smile at the person.
If eye contact is too much,
look at their nose or forehead.
Just breathe.
Don't jump in. Allow pauses. . . .
Even long ones.
Wait for an angel to pass.
Actually listen. Just
really be present and listen.
If your attention wanders,
privately return to the person.
Don't formulate a response.
We all have an authentic
need to be heard.
Care.
If it is a stranger,
you can care for your fellow person
for a few moments. What
better use is there for that
small investment of time?
Key to all this:
You are paying attention
to a real person,
to their presence and emotion.
Not so much to the
supposed content
which is usually just the vehicle.
Remember: something can be
factually un-true YET be emotionally
VERY true to a person.
Respect the person despite
their illusions and misconceptions.
Caveat: You are not obligated to share
space or attention with anger or violence.
Hate/Racism are the exception to all these rules.
Keep your composure, but state
clearly that you don't see it that way.
Leave calmly. Don't be drawn
into an argument; Those types
LIVE for dissension and combat.
Witness, don't resist evil.
Invincible angels handle
ALL that ultimately.
We only need to remain human,
and grow in trust.*
Love You - Good Luck,
Pixie & Cloudia
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