A L O H A !
“ People may not remember
exactly what you did
or what you said,
but they will always remember
how you made them
feel. ”
Tony Hsieh
" Boldness
is a mask
for fear,
however great. "
John Dryden
" There is only one judge. . . So who are you
to judge your neighbor? "
to judge your neighbor? "
GOD'S WORD ® Translation
"who art thou that dost judge the other? "
Young's Literal Translation |
James 4:12
Bible
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Was there ever a time
when we debated ideas?
Today
what we do
is choose sides
is choose sides
and attack!
We have no patience
for the details-
everything
is a chance
is a chance
to argue.
We used to try to
convince
in good faith;
Now the most shocking assertions
get all the attention.
There is no career to be made
with common sense.
To keep passion alive,
(and reason asleep?)
assertions need to be
more
and more extreme.
And since we only listen
to those we already agree with
the extreme gulf in partisan views
only grows wider.
Who is building a bridge?
How can you invite agreement
with a combative, angry tone?
How can you invite agreement
with a combative, angry tone?
Our "news" &
politics is reported the same way
that celebrity gossip is,
repeating the same trivial,
school-yard stuff
over and over again
without un-packing it.
Gotcha!
Gotcha!
So what are we trying to accomplish?
Media, pundits & radio personalities
want attention, airtime and money.
What do YOU want?
In a free society,
can either extreme win,
then rule
their neighbors?
So what's your bottom line?
Would you rather make the best put-down
or find common ground upon which
society
society
- all of us -
can move forward
together?
together?
Do you want to be "right"
or be effective?
Merciless - or wise?
You can be technically
correct,
correct,
but the person you argue with
is telling you
is telling you
what is Emotionally True to THEM,
what matters most to THEM.
Do you care enough to listen
instead of merely
preparing your
instead of merely
preparing your
ammunition?
Can we even really
hear each other
anymore?
Can we even really
hear each other
anymore?
Yes,
you may be "correct"
on your facts,
you may be "correct"
on your facts,
but be DEAD WRONG
in your attitude,
behavior,
results.
in your attitude,
behavior,
results.
This is a Democracy -
not a winner-takes-all
demolition derby.
Or is it?
We do not need to agree
on everything,
in order to live agreeably.
But we do need to understand
what really motivates
people
who hold opinions that seem
incompatible with our own.
To do that,
we need to regard them
once again
as
people,
not as stereotypes.
We need, in a real sense,
to 'love' our neighbor
as we do ourselves;
That is: as
basically good persons;
Persons who deserve
to be listened to.
on everything,
in order to live agreeably.
But we do need to understand
what really motivates
people
who hold opinions that seem
incompatible with our own.
To do that,
we need to regard them
once again
as
people,
not as stereotypes.
We need, in a real sense,
to 'love' our neighbor
as we do ourselves;
That is: as
basically good persons;
Persons who deserve
to be listened to.
So what is missing today?
Please share your opinion with us
in comments.
in comments.
& Thanks for your valued visit.
Warmly, cloudia
Warmly, cloudia
I agree! What a great post!
ReplyDeleteSomehow we have lost the belief that people are inherently good and kind.
Very nice, and true!!
ReplyDeleteThank you!
I say look for the good in people don't try to find bad and definitely 'viva la difference', if someone's opinion isn't the same as mine, no worries, you never know they might be right and I might be wrong....NO WAY Me wrong, never!! Hahahahaha I'm only kidding! Great post Cloudia and yes I agree everyone is perfectly entitled to their own viewpoint, it's what makes the world tick!
ReplyDeleteThat Tony Hsieh quote is so powerful and perfectly true. I always look for the good and interesting in people first - it's my way, but also learned behavior after managing people at work for so long.
ReplyDeleteHello Cloudia, coming by to visit.. I believe that we..we do not like others to tell our weaknesses..
ReplyDeletehave a nice week ahead!
I wanna fly through a rainbow.
ReplyDeleteGreetings from the mainland.
CLOUDIA-- WHAT AN AWESOME AND BEAUTIFULLY EXPRESSED POST! i TOTALLY AGREE WITH EVERY WORD AND THANK YOU FOR REMINDING US THIS BASIC HUMAN NECESSITY!
ReplyDeleteWHOOPS- see you got a CLA out of me it was so good!
I'll take this to heart!
Love to you my SIS!
HFTEC,
J
I'm Building a Bridge- as Chuck Swidoll said, "One Brick at a Time!" to Hawaii--see you next millennium.
Eternal problems Cloudia - never have been solved and never will. I do try not to judge but sometimes find it impossible not to.
ReplyDeleteMost people just want to be "convinced" that they are right. Then they shut off all further analysis.
ReplyDeleteI wish the world still had more time for basic polite civilities. We need to slow down and watch old movies to remember how that was done. DrumMajor
ReplyDeleteGreat sermon, Cloudi! Sorry I've been MIA, the semester ends next Thursday, but I can see the light at the end of the tunnel :)
ReplyDeleteThere's a lot missing. Respect, kindness and a willingness to cooperate. So much has been forgotten.
ReplyDeleteThis is a great post.
Tolerance and understanding is what's missing today. The first photo of the plane flying through the rainbow gets my vote :-).
ReplyDeleteOlá, gostei do seu post... Espectacular....
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Thank you Cloudia, Really listening is so much harder than it sounds. This is a lovely thought-provoking post.
ReplyDeleteThe front page of one of the largest newspapers over here of the 6th December (the day with riots) was not about people throwing Molotow-Cocktails, but a picture of Photojournalists taking pictures of them.
ReplyDeleteOnce again I thank you for feeling the pulse of the world and current time. Will continue to keep me thinking. Please have a good new week ahead.
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Here I'm, dear Cloudia! I was in Berlin and I came back. I like very much your quotes.
ReplyDeleteWish you a good new week!
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Consensus. What happened to people of good will reaching consensus, agreeing to a set of ideas they could all get behind?
ReplyDeleteBLOWN away by the depth of heart, thought & engagement in your comments.
ReplyDeleteSincere Thank YOU
for sharing your experience with our little community here at Comfort Spiral!
Love this quote..
ReplyDelete“ People may not remember
exactly what you did
or what you said,
but they will always remember
how you made them
feel. ” ~ Tony Hsieh
Yes.it does seem that the debate has become a dinasaur. But I still believe in folk, well I am trying to. hahahaha.
ReplyDeleteI do love quotes or wise folk and thinkers. It always make me pause and think.
Love from another, not quite so sunny place, Florida,
Sherry &* Jack
I've always liked that quote, and it really goes hand in hand with your question, if we're kind or cruel to one another the words won't be remembered but the feeling will live forever...we can make a difference, listen more, speak less, give more, take less, but mostly treat everyone we meet the way we want others to treat us, even if it's a worn old dog on his last leg....we are all the same inside... and the simple way is the best way....everytime!
ReplyDeleteTrue ! True !
ReplyDeleteYou each voice the wisdom that must save us!
ReplyDeleteBeautiful, Cloudia! I wish congress would all read this.
ReplyDeleteLove this post, Cloudia! Warmest Aloha from your windward neighbor.
ReplyDeleteGood morning Cloudia! (here: 7 am )
ReplyDeleteThank you for your visit and comment in Portuguese: I apreciate your effort: well done.
have a nice day, my dear!
yesterday, and today I
I have a low back pain.
I have taken pills for pain ... in vain!
I'm still in pain...
This is a Democracy -
ReplyDeletenot a winner-takes-all
demolition derby.
Or is it?
When politics becomes a Zero-sum game sooner or later there will be blood shed. Learned that from the professor who taught me ancient Greek history.
Nice one Cloudia.
ReplyDeleteSimply wonderful.
ReplyDeleteGreat post and very nice blog overall! I am now following :D
ReplyDeleteI think, on a global scale, we've forgotten what personal truth is. I mean, even our scientific (physical) "laws" are just theorems that have not been "dis-proved" and could be at any moment when we have newer technology. One of favorite things to say is, "There is no one way." If our very scientific laws can be challenged and/or changed we should be able to realize that every person, with their own viewpoint, has their own truth. And disagreeing with it yourself doesn't make it untrue for them.
ReplyDeleteThank you for such a thought provoking conversation!
brilliant thoughts, cloudia!
ReplyDeletealthough we live in a mad world of cruelty, we must always remember that we are all human beings and we also must treat others with kindness.
aloha!
Very well said, Cloudia.
ReplyDeleteThank You-may we each be pain free!
ReplyDeleteGreat thoughts, Cloudia!
ReplyDeleteMy best regards from Romania!
I think the golden rule may be the solution - Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. But again, everyone must think the same way - seems impossible, but there's always hope!! :) Cheers and Hugs for the lovely post! I dropped in from Hilary's Congratulations on the POTW award!
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