It takes two.
Even a saint cannot
repair a damaged relationship.
All you can do
is behave as your best self,
and limit contact.
[even when you are together]
Your courtesy,
non-violent manner,
- even friendly overture -
cannot effect repair
unless the other party
wants it,
is capable,
can even SEE
the overture!
run the scripts
that they have always run,
forcing you into
the role assigned to you.
That's all that
they can see.
They're not even present
to themselves.
It's not your failure
but the nature of
free will.
Don't slam doors,
or say in anger
the thing they will
repeat.
Just continue
on your happy way. . .
Damaged relationships
do not heal
if neglected.
The forgetting scab forms,
covering unresolved tissues.
You can go on with
your life.
Only when
the possibility of healing
expires
with one side,
does survivor find
the grace to finally
heal it alone.
It is over.
Done.
You may forgive.
Then the scab
falls away
revealing freshness,
that portends only
good.
Until then
slam no doors
when you get out
to salvage
yourself.
Thank You
for Musing Here
with Us!
Warmly, cloudia
21 comments:
Wise, very wise! Slam no doors and burn no bridges.
Good advice, Cloudia. Sometimes it's feels impossible to forgive though, as the trust is gone. ;)
Such great advice, Cloudia!
You are so right Cloudia, communication is the answer!
Lovely shots and quotes.
Wise words there! A great read for me today.
tough to do, but good advice.
I like that reflecting puddle shot.
Words worth a second read!
Your words today REALLY make me feel heard, feel GOOD!
Thanks, each of your jolly humans
Palm-reflecting puddle is a great idea, Cloudia.
I might have to copy it sometime!
;-)
I love your choice of pictures to match your words in today's post. Very well done!
Fantastic reflection in that puddle. Have a great weekend.
Heips
Nice photos, but most I like your reflection in puddle.
Have a happy Weekend.
Thank you. I needed to read this today.
Still hurting after a friend told me our friendship was threadbare.
Good words, Cloudia!
Good advice, Cloudia! I love your reflection photo..Have a happy weekend!
Very wise, Cloudia!
So true. It's a bit like never going to bed angry, but many do.... all one can do is their very own best, and carry on. Those that want to fester, shall and will. This is one of my favorite quotes for life "You know, sometimes it is necessary to disconnect!" From the movie, Hanging Up! A warm Aloha to you dear Cloudia!
Your pics are so great ! I'm in love with your clouds : their shape is really unique. Your puddle reflection is so tropical with the palm trees reflecting in it. And I'm very fond of your first pic, with the pumpkins : nice composition.
Lovely! Such fun we have here! Thanks
<3
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