Friday, May 2, 2014

All Aboard High Speed Entrainment

Summertime Blues by Eddie Cochran on Grooveshark


How often we act
before we think.
Usually this works out
very well for us;

Concentrating on every
routine task would be
exhausting.







We stop at red lights
without inner debate
or wasted time.

Efficient, see?







Human relations
though
DO require thought.

When we respond
automatically to a stimulus
like real or perceived rudeness
an unpredictable chain of events 
begins,
one rail car draws the next,
and we are on board
before we know it!

You do not know
if the other will apologize,
smile, or "snap" 
and retaliate
automatically.







If someone is stressed
and ready to break
do you want to be present,
much less the cause 
and target?

Just asking.

Before responding to another
there is a golden moment.







Do not retaliate reflexively.
It may be that the other
will soon apologize
IF YOU
leave them that space.

If not,
 it is not Your role
to educate or correct.
Think of it this way:
How well do You
accept correction
from random strangers?










One of life's great axioms:
"Don't Take It Personally."

It sounds wise.
Practicing it is a challenge,
but one that will pay you
for the rest of your life.








" Learn to pause... 

or nothing worthwhile 

will catch up to you. "

  Doug King 


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Thank YOU
for looking in

                         Warmly, Cloudia


16 comments:

the walking man said...

Rapidly evolving situations require quick and decisive action. That the wrong choice may be made is why we each have our own Secretary of State mode. It is man's nature though to violate, incarcerate or kill, as a solution do discussion gone off the rails.

Jennifer A. Jilks said...

This is very thoughtful, Cloudia.

Laura said...

excellent and wise words Cloudia… this describes the intentional efforts of attempting to live a more peaceful home-life with adolescents so well… not to mention everywhere else, in all other relationships. That pause is golden… sometimes the desired response from the other person does not materialize, still it is healthy modeling and at least one of us is able to bathe in the momentary pause.

BEautiful photos my friend.

Adam said...

Happy Friday

Charles Gramlich said...

I don't accept criticism from random strangers well. That is for sure.

TexWisGirl said...

it is hard not to react. :)

love the lobby shadows!

Cloudia said...

Thanks, Friends

Karen S. said...

Yikes, I sure don't want to jump aboard any rail car like that! It is easy to do, especially in traffic! Pausing and many deep breaths helps lots. May you have nothing but happy, smiling faces greeting you all day long! :)

Cloudia said...

appreciate that, K

William Kendall said...

Beautiful shots, Cloudia. The interplay of that staircase's shadow on the building's quite striking.

Filip and Kristel said...

Like the blue yellow wall.

Greetings,
Filip

Elephant's Child said...

Pauses are indeed golden. And precious. And allow growth.

eViL pOp TaRt said...

Some pauses do refresh......the spirit

Karen said...

Wonderful shots Claudia, and more wise words to ponder and remember.

PerthDailyPhoto said...

Couldn't agree more Cloudia, words spoken in haste can sometimes take forever, or never to recover from.

Kay said...

This is excellent advice, that I sometimes forget. Thank you for the reminder.