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Manu O Ku

Honolulu's Official Bird

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You Win, I Win, or WE Win

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"Those who think it is permissible to 

tell white lies soon grow color-blind."

             Austin O'Malley

   

     Do you want to be "right" 

or be effective? 

 You can be technically correct, 

but the person you argue with 

is telling you something valuable.  

They are telling you what is 

Emotionally True to them, 

what matters most to them.  

They are telling you exactly what 

you need to understand, in order 

to forge an agreement.

     Can we even really hear each other anymore?

     Yes, you may be "correct" on your facts, 

but be dead wrong in your attitude, 

behavior, results.  This is a Democracy, 

not a winner-takes-all  demolition derby.  

Or is it?

     We do not need to agree on everything, 

in order to live agreeably.

     But we do need to understand 

what really motivates people 

who hold opinions that seem 

incompatible with our own.

     To do that, we need to regard them 

once again as people.not as 

stereotypes in a morality play.  

We need, in a real sense,

to 'love' our neighbor as 

we do ourselves; That is: 

as basically good persons;  

Persons who deserve 

to be listened to.

Linking to

Wild Bird Wednesday

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Thank YOU

Friend!

             Fondly, cloudia

Link to a BBC Article on the topic of Paltering