Saturday, February 7, 2009

Girlfriends and BFFs: Happy Tears & Betrayal

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"I could sooner reconcile all Europe than two women."
Louis XIV

"Women dress alike all over the world: they dress to be annoying to other women."
Elsa Schiaparelli

"Guys are like dogs. They keep coming back. Ladies are like cats. Yell at a cat one time...they're gone."

Lenny Bruce

"What a strange thing man is; and what a stranger thing woman." Lord Byron

"We have women in the military, but they don't put us in the front lines. They don't know if we can fight, if we can kill. I think we can. All the general has to do is walk over to the women and say, "You see the enemy over there? They say you look fat in those uniforms." Elayne Boosler

Recently a blogger I enjoy following a lot, Bubble Wench of Blogs of Life, was honest enough in a post to basically say: "I'm empty, I'm pissed off, and it's all because of some betraying girl who I thought was my friend. I wanna be left alone!"

We all wrote in to curse the offender and to support our friend. That's what women and exceptional men DO! But it got me thinking.
Ample research shows that for women, our mood, attitudes, happiness, financial habits, and even WEIGHT are strongly effected by the quality of our relationships; especially our relationships with other women, and MOST particularly, with our "Best Friend" or the lack thereof. We get lonely without a BFF to be unconditionally understanding. Especially when we no longer understand ourselves.

My lunch companion today contributed the fact that she too has come to enjoy solitude more than the hassles that go along with some close female friendships - though she is no hermit by any means; But I knew what she meant. Bubble Wench knows what she meant. And I'd wager that most every woman has struggled with this dichotomy in her life.
And female bosses? Blogger Akemalu tackled this one a few days ago, and that's WHOLE other post - or a doctoral thesis!

My independent solitude is a treasure that deeply satisfies while nourishing my soul & my work (words). It makes me ready to enjoy an interesting new girlfriend (or any person) on her own terms, and to let it blossom or die a dignified and quiet death. . .

So what is your take on all this? Women? Men? Intersex folks?

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