"Sit down before fact
as a little child,
be prepared to
give up every
preconceived notion...
or you shall learn
nothing."
Thomas H. Huxley
"I have never
been hurt
by anything
I didn't say."
Calvin Coolidge
"There ain't no pancake
so thin
it ain't got two sides. ..."
so thin
it ain't got two sides. ..."
"The first pancake
is always lumpy."
Russian Proverb
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When I worked with teens
I was very invested in
giving them my attention
and believing in them.
Sometimes they complained
about some person or situation:
The principal said-
Mom said-
Yes, Mom,
or the Principal
can be rude,
or even wrong.
B U T
By going off half-cocked,
based on 1 person's version
I have learned to my
embarrassment
that there are
ALWAYS
at LEAST two sides
to everything,
two versions of every story.
I have learned
to withhold judgement
instead of reacting
passionately.
(What was that Grandma
said about counting
to ten?)
My version of events
is Emotionally True
to me.
Yours to You.
Yet, those truths
are but parts
of a bigger
T r u t h.
I have learned
not to argue with
Emotional Truths.
They are facts.
It is a rare person
who can see beyond
their own
Emotional Truths
to walk a mile
in the Other's shoes.
I work towards being that person.
Join us.
Together we can
change the
Way the World
Works!
Who's with me?
Fondly, cloudia
Bonus Info:
No matter how flat you make a pancake,
it still has two sides.
Step into the other person's shoes
and try to see their side of the story.
Try to understand the other person
and why they acted in a hurtful way.
Try not to judge them.
Conversely, examine your role in the feud.
Did you do or saying something hurtful?
Did you promise something
and then back out of your agreement?
Keep in mind
the other person
probably has some valid points that you need
to weigh and consider.
"Dr. Phil" McGraw.
