Toxic Narcissists

A   L   O   H   A !

"Half the harm 

that is done in this world

 is due to people 

who want to feel 

important.  -

They don’t mean to do harm,

 but the harm (that they cause)

 does not interest them.  

Or they do not see it, 

or they justify it -

- because they are absorbed 

in the endless struggle 

to think well of themselves. "

                                   T.S. Eliot

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One of life's 

biggest challenges

is dealing with

Toxic Narcissists.

We are at a disadvantage

from the moment

they enter our lives.

How do you deal fairly

with those who act

like your judge:

criticizing,

expecting,
 demanding?

Everything we do

is viewed by them

through the lens

of their self interest,

ego needs,

and suspicion.

"My way- or the highway"

Types

smother freedom

or declare war;

There's no middle ground

with them.

You are either

their emotional servant,

or an enemy.

This toxicity must be

avoided or contained
or it can poison
your well-being.

Moral, health,

 and emotional hazards

abound

when they are our

family members,

neighbors,

co-workers,

or otherwise 

unavoidable.

Remember:

Balance & discussion

are pointless: 

"Trying to 

reform narcissists 

by reasoning with them 

or by appealing to their 

better nature is

 about as effective 

as spitting in the ocean.”
                                         Anon.

They will remember

and repeat

their negative interpretation

of your every act,

no matter how long ago,

even as they are blind

to their own behavior

and it's real world

consequences.

Which complicates the fact

that the only way to

interact with them

is behavioral.
[If you cannot
 avoid them altogether]

Do not be baited.
Remain centered.

Do what you need to do.
Say little.

Do not "ignore them"

ostentatiously.

Speak courteously always.

This will frustrate their

tactic of lying about you

to others:
Don't give them material.

[ They can appear
quite lovely to those
they are not fixated on.
Usually it is their own
children or family members
who bear the brunt. ]

Don't believe them
when they try
to draw you in,

or they will

"Gas Light" you.

Just listen politely.

They well know how
to manipulate
whenever
 it suits them.
They may even dangle
the loving relationship
 you seek.

Don't kick that football
Charlie Brown!
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Just do your duty.

Give them love.

Stay safe.
Remember:
This is all about
their fragile, 
wounded ego.

Good Luck!

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 “ The compass rose is nothing

 but a star 

with an infinite number

 of rays pointing 

in all directions. -

-  It is the one true and perfect 
symbol of the 
universe.
And it is the one most accurate 
symbol of you. ” 
                                    Vera Nazarian 

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