Listening Arts

A L O H A From Honolulu!

I remind myself every morning: 

Nothing I say this day 

will teach me anything. 

- So 

if I'm going to learn, 

I must do it by listening. 

       Larry King

Ears are made not for hearing 

but for listening. Listening 

is an active skill, 

whereas hearing is passive. 

Listening is something that we 

have to work at - it's a relationship 

with sound. And yet, it's a skill 

that none of us are taught. 

   Julian Treasure

You have to develop relationships 

with other people so 

when the tough times come, 

you can work together. 

               Colin Powell

If you think communication 

is all talking, you 

haven't been listening.

Ashleigh Brilliant

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How To Listen:
Do you have mental energy

right now for this person?
If not, kindly take your leave.

If the answer is yes:

Smile at the person.

If eye contact is too much,

look at their nose or forehead.

Just breathe.

Don't jump in. Allow pauses. . . .

Even long ones.

Wait for an angel to pass.

Actually listen. Just

really be present and listen.

If your attention wanders,

privately return to the person.

Don't formulate a response.

We all have an authentic

need to be heard.

Care.

If it is a stranger,

you can care for your fellow person

for a few moments. What

better use is there for that

small investment of time?

Key to all this:

You are paying attention

to a real person,

to their presence and emotion.

Not so much to the

supposed content

which is usually just the vehicle.

Remember: something can be

factually un-true YET be emotionally

VERY true to a person.

Respect the person despite

their illusions and misconceptions.

Caveat: You are not obligated to share

space or attention with anger or violence.

Hate/Racism are the exception to all these rules.

Keep your composure, but state

clearly that you don't see it that way.

Leave calmly. Don't be drawn

into an argument; Those types

LIVE for dissension and combat.

Witness, don't resist evil.

Invincible angels handle

ALL that ultimately.

We only need to remain human,

and grow in trust.*

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Always

I wanted to help

by talking,

telling,

sharing.

Ti Plants

If my show

was good enough:

EUREKA!

Lesson learned,

problem solved.

But I learned,

people only hear

what THEY

are READY

to hear.

And you can only

know

when they are

 ready

by listening

to THEM.

more is accomplished

by "being there"

by listening.

When I see a person

striding across a stage

to teach or tell,

like @ You Tube

or a conference,

Something inside me

is disgusted.

"Enough experts!

Enough Breakthroughs!

Enough SALES

technique!"

Experts stand revealed

today

as deeply flawed

self-promoters.

When enough of us feel

that disgust;

When we start 

listening to

all stake-holders

instead of

mere contesting,

Then the SALES

can end.

Actual solutions

can emerge.

Someday.

" People have the power

 to redeem 

the work of fools.  "

Patti Smith

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People to Speak Without Interruption

A L O H A !

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" Shoulder the sky, my lad,
and drink your ale. "

 

A. E. Housman

" Nowadays most men lead lives
of noisy desperation. "

James Thurber

" Now all my teachers are dead
except silence. " 

W.S. Merwin

" Silence

is the true friend

that never betrays. "

Confucius

 " An inability to stay quiet

is one of the most conspicuous failings

of mankind. "

Walter Bagehot

" Silence is a source of great strength. "

Lao Tzu

" Listening is not 

waiting to talk. "

Scott Ginsberg

" Every person in this life

has something to teach me—

and as soon as I accept that,

I open myself to truly listening. "

 Catherine Doucette

" Deep listening, compassionate listening

is not listening with the purpose of analyzing

or even uncovering what has happened in the past.

You listen first of all

in order to give the other person relief,

a chance to speak out,
to feel that someone finally understands him or her.

Deep listening is the kind of listening

that helps us to keep
compassion alive

while the other speaks…

During this time you have in mind only one idea,

one desire: 

to listen

in order to give the other person

the chance to speak out

and suffer less. 

This is your only purpose.

Other things like analyzing,
understanding the past,

can be a by-produce of this work.

But first of all

listen with compassion. "

Thich Nhat Hanh

 

" The most basic of all human needs 

is the need to understand

and be understood.
 The best way to understand people 

is to listen to them. "

Ralph Nichols

" To truly listen

is to risk being changed

forever. "

Sakej Henderson

 

 

" An enemy is a person

whose story we have not heard. "

Gene Knudsen Hoffman

" Wisdom is the reward

you get

for a lifetime of listening

when you’d have preferred to talk. "

Doug Larson

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