Emotionally True

A  L  O  H  A !

Zeuss

 "You're only as young as 

the last time you 

changed your mind. "

           Timothy Leary

 Alan's Hale [Hawiian: Hah-Lay = 'House']

“On the other hand, the 

emotional record was not 

like a history book; 

its truths were constantly 

changing, and true even 

when incompatible.” 

          Julian Barnes

"It is not necessary to 

deny another's reality 

in order to 

affirm your own."

                       Anne Wilson Schaef 

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It can be very useful

to realize that something

can be deeply, meaningfully,

true to another person,

even though the FACTS

as you see them

seem to contradict their

deep conviction.

We tend to make an idol

of our interpretation,

upon which we are too

ready to sacrifice our 

kindness and patience.

Not to mention,

another person.

Comprehending the kernels

of concern and truth 

important to a 'wrong' person

is the more productive,

the wiser, kinder way.

I would rather make friends

than win arguments.

I want to thrive in an 

atmosphere of mutual respect

where we listen to one another,

and not just so we can fight,

convince, or win.

We will thrive together

as family, or perish

as tribes of fools.

Thank YOU

Friend! 

                 Warmly, cloudia

OK to be Sad Sometimes

A  L  O  H  A ! 

Come Inside and Rest a Moment

 Let Yourself Catch Up With You

 "I love my past. 

I love my present.

 I'm not ashamed 

of what I've had 

and I'm not sad 

because I no longer

 have it." 

Colette 

 At Year's End 

we naturally think 

of loved ones passed

 Old feelings arise, 

old demons

 Emotions can become vast,

 busy, confusing

 Somehow 

we have the Rock,

 the Light, the Guide

we need

to avoid the rocks

Each Year

we cling more wistfully

to lovelier,

more fleeting

Moments

=^..^=

One of my main 

daily lights

is this blog,

especially YOU

the amazing souls

who find Your way

here to visit.

' Take Peace & Smiles - Leave Your Comment '

Thanks for EVERYTHING!

                                       Warmly, cloudia

Comes the Calm

A L O H A !

 Comes the Calm

 After the Watching

the Waiting

the Wind

 the Fire

the Tears

on the eve

of the 

Election

comes the Calm

Equanimity

Love & Beauty,

BALM.

I am sharing peace

with YOU,

my friend!

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  ' Take Peace & Laughs - Leave Your Comment '

 
Thanks for visiting!
                             Warmly, cloudia
 

To Say When Sad

A  L  O  H  A !

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“ You cannot protect yourself

 from sadness 

without protecting yourself 

from happiness. ”

  Jonathan Safran Foer

“ Tears shed

 for another person

 are not a sign of weakness. 

They are a sign 

of a pure 

heart. ”

 José N. Harris

 " We are each others' magnitude and bond. "

Gwendolyn Brooks

“There is some kind of a sweet innocence

 in being human. . .
in the nature of being able

 to be both broken

 and whole,
at the same time.”

 C. JoyBell C.

 “ If our destiny stems
 from our name,

 then I weep for the flower

 named Wilt. ” 

 Jarod Kintz,

“ Ho! Ho! Ho!

 To the bottle I go
To heal my heart 

and drown my woe
Rain may fall,

 and wind may blow
And many miles

 be still to go
But under a tall tree

 will I lie
And let the clouds

 go sailing by”

  J.R.R. Tolkien

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Don't try to fix me

When I'm sad,

Or make me feel

I'm being bad,

Do nothing

But Be There

Don't Recoil

All good's not spoiled

Just love me,

Steady on the way

And I will guard

Your sadness

When mine has gone

away.

Thanks for cheering me so often!

Take away my Gratitude - Leave Your Comment

             Warmly, cloudia

How to be Right, while Dead Wrong

A L O H A !

“ People may not remember 

exactly what you did

or what you said,

but they will always remember

how you made them

feel. ”

Tony Hsieh

" Boldness

is a mask

for fear,

however great. "

John Dryden

" There is only one judge. . .  So who are you
to judge your neighbor? "

 GOD'S WORD ® Translation

"who art thou that dost judge the other? "

Young's Literal Translation

James 4:12

Bible

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Was there ever a time

when we debated ideas?

Today

what we do
is choose sides

and attack!

We have no patience

for the details-

everything 
is a chance

to argue.

We used to try to 

convince

in good faith;

Now the most shocking assertions

get all the attention.

There is no career to be made

with common sense.

To keep passion alive,

(and reason asleep?)

  assertions need to be 

more

and more extreme.

And since we only listen

to those we already agree with

the extreme gulf in partisan views

only grows wider.

Who is building a bridge?

How can you invite agreement
with a combative, angry tone?

Our "news" &

politics is reported the same way

that celebrity gossip is,

repeating the same trivial,

school-yard stuff

over and over again

without un-packing it.
Gotcha!

So what are we trying to accomplish?

Media, pundits & radio personalities

want attention, airtime and money.

What do YOU want?

In a free society,

can either extreme win,

then rule 

their neighbors?

So what's your bottom line?

Would you rather make the best put-down

or find common ground upon which 
society

- all of us -

can move forward
together?

Do you want to be "right"

or be effective?

Merciless - or wise?

You can be technically
correct,

but the person you argue with
is telling you

what is Emotionally True to THEM,

what matters most to THEM.

Do you care enough to listen
instead of merely
preparing your 

ammunition?

Can we even really
hear each other
anymore?

Yes,
you may be "correct"
on your facts,

but be DEAD WRONG
in your attitude,
behavior,
results.

This is a Democracy -

not a winner-takes-all 

demolition derby.

Or is it?

We do not need to agree
on everything,
in order to live agreeably.

But we do need to understand
what really motivates
people
who hold opinions that seem
incompatible with our own.


To do that,
we need to regard them
once again
as
people,
not as stereotypes.


We need, in a real sense,
to 'love' our neighbor
as we do ourselves;
That is: as
basically good persons;
Persons who deserve
to be listened to.

So what is missing today?

Please share your opinion with us
in comments.

& Thanks for your valued visit.

                                                                    Warmly, cloudia

Emotional Forecast

A L O H A  !

click on the clouds - they won't bite

" It's the emotion

that appears first.

And then the thought

(or the story)

follows. "

Gangaji

(^_^)              :'-(

Emotions are often likened to weather.

They blow in from who-knows-where,

they can be tender or torrential,

and when it's raining - 

well, 

you just gotta hunker down

and get wet.

Whatever causes emotions,

or precipitates a particular

episode,

they derive their power from a singular

fact:

They are ALL ABOUT

"Me."

Whole industries and professions -

some might say EVERY ONE,

are based on the promise of

elusive happiness.

Religions even promise happiness 

that is FOREVER!

Can't wrap a cloud around a mast like cotton candy!

 One thing we understand too well

is how difficult it is to choose,

- or change -

our emotional state.

So riddle me this:

If our moods are our own,

and we know that they are 

seemingly not chosen,

why do we often think

that the emotions

of those closest to us

are something 

"they are doing to us?"

 Sounds silly, but we ALL do it:

"If he would JUST act different,

EVERYthing would be fine!

Why is HE

DOING this to

ME !? "

Hard as it is for all of us

"Me-s" to understand,

those around us are, overwhelmingly,

each a " Me" 

too!

And it's all about:

those "me-s "

to THEMSELVES.

Showing compassion

when one of them is upset

instead of pique,

treating them as a 

wet "Me" in a storm

instead of as an annoying 

cloud 

over the face of your sun

might be the way to go.

What do YOU think?

Please tell us in comments

                                                Warm Thanks, cloudia