"Sit down before fact
as a little child,
be prepared to
give up every
preconceived notion...
or you shall learn
nothing."
Thomas H. Huxley
"I have never
been hurt
by anything
I didn't say."
Calvin Coolidge
"There ain't no pancake
so thin
it ain't got two sides. ..."
so thin
it ain't got two sides. ..."
"The first pancake
is always lumpy."
Russian Proverb
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When I worked with teens
I was very invested in
giving them my attention
and believing in them.
Sometimes they complained
about some person or situation:
The principal said-
Mom said-
Yes, Mom,
or the Principal
can be rude,
or even wrong.
B U T
By going off half-cocked,
based on 1 person's version
I have learned to my
embarrassment
that there are
ALWAYS
at LEAST two sides
to everything,
two versions of every story.
I have learned
to withhold judgement
instead of reacting
passionately.
(What was that Grandma
said about counting
to ten?)
My version of events
is Emotionally True
to me.
Yours to You.
Yet, those truths
are but parts
of a bigger
T r u t h.
I have learned
not to argue with
Emotional Truths.
They are facts.
It is a rare person
who can see beyond
their own
Emotional Truths
to walk a mile
in the Other's shoes.
I work towards being that person.
Join us.
Together we can
change the
Way the World
Works!
Who's with me?
Fondly, cloudia
Bonus Info:
No matter how flat you make a pancake,
it still has two sides.
Step into the other person's shoes
and try to see their side of the story.
Try to understand the other person
and why they acted in a hurtful way.
Try not to judge them.
Conversely, examine your role in the feud.
Did you do or saying something hurtful?
Did you promise something
and then back out of your agreement?
Keep in mind
the other person
probably has some valid points that you need
to weigh and consider.
"Dr. Phil" McGraw.
23 comments:
Great advice, Cloudia. I too try to see both sides of every story but it isn't always easy, I fear. Some people believe people who try to understand both sides are "fence sitters." But people like us don't create wars. :)
Hi Cloudia, I jumped over for some of your beauty, calm, and wisdom.
Thanks for everything. Shalom!
Beautiful images.
Love the palm shadows.
Great quotes, too.
Great advice, Cloudia. Especially the importance of considering someone else's emotional truth. Many conflicts could be lessened by taking that into account.
So beautiful photos.
Nice post.
Well said Cloudia!Big hugs!!In the hot weather:)
nice Coolidge quote
Enjoying your posts, I'm a friend of William's from Speak of the Devil and I loved Hawaii so much, I had to write about it.
Egrets, I've had a few
But then again, too few to mention...
~
The first picture is stunning!! The advice in the post is so very, very helpful. Thanks for sharing your insights.
I love each of you. Thanks so much. Hang in there dear Dina. Shalom 💜
I'm with you on what you say. Let's change the world, it so needs it now. Thanks Cloudia.
I like the pancake comment. Tis true. Most people don't seem to realize this, or won't admit it.
At LEAST two sides - and often many more.
Thank you.
So I'm not the only one who got the count to ten notion told to?
Am with you!!
Namaste /\ from Mumbai
Aloha!!
I wish to be an empty glass !
Great advice! Yes there are always two sides to a story. :)
I'm with you! I like the two sided pancake, especially when it has a crispy edge all the way around it! Oh yummy!
Beeuutiful bird of paradise bloom. Lotsa colors. I'd love to walk with lotsa folks as long as I can wear my flip flop slippas. DrumMajor
Love the Coolidge quote!
xoxox,
CC
Lovely palm ....and good advice. I have to try and keep this in mind
just a week, little mire, and I'll be back in paradise :-)
See you
Ciao
Stefano
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